Repost of blog post by Rory Vaden:
WHY SO DEFENSIVE?
Defensiveness as a response is the evidence that what someone says about you is based in a kernel of truth. When we are defensive it subtly proves our own acknowledgment of our own weaknesses.
If someone were to make a claim about you that were untrue and you had full confidence knowing it wasn’t true and you had conviction that the fruit of your life would demonstrate that the claim were untrue then what would be the need for defensiveness?
There would be no need for defensiveness for the right thing would be obvious. Lies do not hold up for long underneath the scrutiny of transparency…